The ReStory Blog
The Healing Power of Kindness: Transforming Trauma into Tragedy in Your Marriage
It's essential to understand the distinction between tragedy and trauma. Tragedy represents challenging and difficult situations that we encounter in life. These are events we often have little control over because we live in a world marked by brokenness and imperfection. Tragedies are an unavoidable part of our human experience.
Navigating Emotional Unavailability in Marriage
Have you ever experienced that frustrating moment with your spouse? You're trying to share something important, to connect on a deeper level, but it feels like they're not even there. You're left wondering if they care, if they're truly present, or if they've emotionally checked out.
Bridging Emotional Distance: Understanding Your Emotionally Unavailable Spouse
In our previous blog, we've discussed how emotional unavailability in marriage can stem from past traumas that led your spouse to shut down their emotions as a coping mechanism. Now, we'll explore how curiosity and empathy can be instrumental in bridging the emotional distance between you and your spouse.
Emotional Unavailability: Exploring the Roots
Have you ever wondered why emotional unavailability plagues your marriage? Why do you or your spouse struggle to connect on an emotional level, leaving you feeling distant and frustrated? The answers might lie in your past, particularly your childhood.
The Courage to Risk: Rebuilding Emotional Connection in Marriage
Risk. It's a word that can make many couples shudder. It's often associated with fear, uncertainty, and stepping into unknown territory. But, as we'll discuss, it's an essential element in rebuilding emotional connections.
Can Marriage Counseling Help? The Potential of Relationship Therapy
Are you feeling stuck in a rut in your marriage? Do you find yourself wondering if there's any hope for reigniting the spark that once fueled your relationship? Well, you're not alone. Many couples go through ups and downs in their marriages, and sometimes seeking professional help can make all the difference. In this blog post, we'll dive into the world of marriage counseling and explore how it can potentially help you and your partner overcome challenges and strengthen your bond.
Master Your Emotions: Simple Strategies to Kickstart Your Affect Regulation Journey
Imagine having healthier relationships, excelling in your career, and effectively managing stress. These are just a few of the incredible benefits that come with developing your affect regulation skills. But how exactly does affect regulation make such a difference?
The Impact of Affect Regulation in Personal and Professional Settings
Imagine having healthier relationships, excelling in your career, and effectively managing stress. These are just a few of the incredible benefits that come with developing your affect regulation skills. But how exactly does affect regulation make such a difference?
Decoding Affect Regulation: Unleashing Your Emotional Superpower
Picture this: You're faced with a challenging situation, and your emotions start running wild. You wish you had more control over your feelings, right? Well, that's where affect regulation comes in. It's like having a superpower that allows you to manage and control your emotions effectively.
Unraveling Family of Origin Triangulation: Navigating Complex Dynamics for Healthier Relationships
Hey there! Let's dive into a topic that affects families in significant ways: family of origin triangulation. It's a bit of a mouthful, but don't worry, we'll break it down and explore how it impacts relationships. Join me on this educational and therapeutic journey where we'll shed light on triangulation and share strategies to navigate this challenging pattern.
Nurturing Secure Attachment: Strategies for Growth and Healing (Part 3 of 3)
Begin your journey towards secure attachment by cultivating self-awareness. Take time to reflect on your attachment patterns and identify any triggers or emotional responses that arise in your relationships. By understanding the influence of past experiences on your present behavior, you can gain clarity and start making conscious choices in your interactions.
Nurturing Secure Bonds: The Developmental Factors of Ambivalent Attachment (Part 2 of 3)
Ambivalent attachment doesn't arise out of thin air. It has its roots in early childhood experiences and the responsiveness of caregivers. If you grew up in an environment where your caregivers were inconsistent in meeting your needs or where there were frequent separations, it could have laid the groundwork for ambivalent attachment.
Unraveling the Complexity of Ambivalent Attachment: A Three-Part Blog Series
Have you ever felt like your emotions were on a never-ending rollercoaster ride? If so, you may resonate with the characteristics of ambivalent attachment. Ambivalent attachment is an attachment style characterized by a blend of dependency and anxiety within relationships. It can leave you feeling like you're on an emotional seesaw, with highs of euphoria and lows of despair.
Spiritual Abuse: The Voice of the Spiritually Abused
The truth is, spiritual abuse can happen in any relationship where an individual misuses their spiritual authority to control, manipulate, or exploit another for their own purposes. While common instances come from pastors, ministry leaders, or church cultures, the same is true when it comes from a parent, spouse, or teacher who misuses their spiritual authority.
Porn addiction: Is there hope?
As I work with clients around their porn use, many are often surprised to discover that porn is not really the problem, but rather a symptom. Let me clarify — of course porn use is damaging and something to stop, but it is not the core thing. Rather, it points to a deeper level of hunger and desire in our souls.
Losing Our High-Capacity Selves
What if the global pandemic left us all an unexpected gift of coming to our own limits and resetting? Can we bless our former high capacity selves and embrace the new ways we want to live?
Single Parenting Part 3: Where the Rubber Meets the Road
The last couple of weeks we have explored a bit around the places that single parenting leaves us tender. I am more than aware that those conversations just begin to scratch the surface, so please hear me when I say that I know there is more. While we cannot conduct an exhaustive examination of the reality of single parenting in this space, my hope is that you leave feeling a bit more seen and a touch more hopeful. What I’d like to do is end this series with ideas that could help you make your life as a single parent just a bit easier.
Single Parenting Part 2: Don’t Tell Me It’s Hopeless
So, what then is the real cost? In an attempt at multiplication, we end up dividing. Your absent partner had/has a role, a voice, and a calling. And so do you. Don’t be tempted to drop your calling to take up theirs. Your children will benefit more from you living more fully and authentically as yourself than if you dilute your presence by attempting to carry out a role that isn’t yours. They lose doubly if you do.
Single Parenting Part 1: What I Miss Most
Many of us find ourselves parenting on our own, whether it’s through divorce, death, abandonment, incarceration, military deployment, choice…there are myriad ways we find ourselves here, and almost all of them hurt. It is therefore impossible to speak of solo parenting without addressing grief.
What is Acudetox?
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AcuWellness (Acudetox) is a valuable adjunct treatment that entails a 5-point acupuncture treatment with the ears. AcuWellness impacts parts of the body related to stress and trauma and its downstream effects are helpful for many different concerns.